Monday, January 25, 2010
Down with Valentine's Day!
In the interest of full disclosure I should start off by telling you that I have only ever been in one real relationship, but even then I wasn't a fan of Valentine's Day. My boyfriend and I had a mutual hatred of the day, therefore chose not to celebrate. He felt, as did I that if you truly love someone you should show that person all the time. Why should there be one day of the year when you have to spend money you may not necessarily have or make crazy plans you wouldn’t normally make? So things were all fine and dandy until the first year that I worked in an office. All the women around me were getting flowers and balloons and whatever else and making comments about how saying he didn’t believe in Valentine’s Day was just a way to get out of buying me something. I was young and impressionable, and so was he. He felt like he needed to compete with the other men and I bought into it. I didn’t want my coworkers to think that he didn’t love me. It is sad that we have all been programmed to believe in this crazy “holiday”, and I use this term loosely. We should all take a moment and look up the history of this bizarre day of love and how it became what it is today. As far as I am concerned this day exists only to make the greeting card and candy companies obscene amounts of money. It is an impossible situation for men always having to outdo the last year or the other men around. And if you are a single woman like me, well it can be one of the most depressing days of the year. I have been single for many years and for the most part pretty happy about it. However on February 14th I can’t help but feel like a complete loser. I am almost thirty and alone. It is so frighteningly depressing to watch everyone around you get all these things that are supposed to represent love. I hate it! The commercialism and exclusivity of it all makes me sick. I know this probably sounds like the pathetic ramblings of an old bitter spinster, well that’s probably because it is. I truly don’t believe in this holiday though and am curious to know how many of you agree with me.
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Danni, you are not alone in your feelings about it being nothing but a commercialized holiday. Right up there with, do I dare say it, Christmas! Something has happened to society that it is programmed to have to buy something. Whatever happened to a walk in the park holding hands, or sharing a cup of coffee while watching the sun rise or..... Oh, and you are NOT a spinster or a loser! Think about this, how many Valentine gifts do the 'women' you work with still have? Flowers wither and have to be thrown out. Those stuffed animals end up in boxes or wherever. The cards, don't even get me started on cards! What I am trying to say, is, be happy with who YOU are! You are a really great gal with one heck of a sense of humor! Don't be so hard on yourself.
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